Question from reader: What do you do when a person has you confused about the relationship and you feel like you're wasting your time?

Advice:

As hard as it may be, sometimes it's best to just severe ties with people who leave you deeply confused about your relationship. Although people may use "words" that say they care or love you, if they're not "showing" you...you may be missing a painfully clear sign that their attention is elsewhere or...they're just not that into you. Therefore, they no longer deserve all the special attention you've been giving them and so if it fades away...so be it. It just means that once again that person isn't the one for you, but you shouldn't look at the time you've spent with them as wasted but as preparation and conditioning for the next situation. Spend this time focusing on areas of your life that need special attention like your kids, your home, your career and most importantly YOURSELF. Use the time and energy that you feel you're wasting, to build yourself up and the things and people around you that NEED that time and energy. Work on re-inventing yourself stronger and more secure than before. Keep yourself occupied and productive. Enjoy yourself, your friends and your family. Rediscover a time when you were happy and in control of yourself and figure out how to bring it back! Good Luck!