Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Go On...

Where do you go from here? When there's nothing left to say, nothing left to talk through, nothing left to work out, no decisions left to be made....you go on. You take all the disappointment and anger and hurt feelings...and you go on with your life because life is going to still go on whether YOU do or not. The sun is still going to rise, the bills will still have to be paid, the kids will still have to be taken care of and the world will continue to spin despite your broken heart and bruised soul. When relationships leave us abandoned, we always take it out on the wrong people...us. We abuse ourselves by allowing another person to drain us of our happiness, by not eating, not sleeping, not being able to concentrate on anything but the details of what we thought was our destiny. Instead of accepting that things didn't work out no matter who may be at fault or even if there is no one at fault, we find reasons to place blame...there is no peace in that. There will be NO peace and NO closure until we re-evaluate ourselves outside of the relationship and come to terms with who we are and what role we ourselves may have played in the outcome. You work on YOU...that's where you go when it's over.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Try This...

Sometimes you just know when it's time to take some time away from the world. Time to wrap yourself in a protective mental bubble and rethink the situations in your life that are causing you the most angst. Of course there are expectations in the roles that we play...mom, wife, daughter, work colleague... that we must still find the energy and sanity to deal with. But, our own well-being, which is far too often overlooked or flat-out ignored needs to be placed at the forefront of our minds without feeling the storm of guilt that rushes through us when we feel like we aren't living up to the standards of wonderwoman. Newsflash...you're NOT wonderwoman. You're human and there are times when you're entitled to cut off the phones, call out sick, send the kids with family or friends, order take-out instead of slaving over the hot stove and just spend a day under the duvet without feeling like the second coming of Christ is near. Trust me, it will do you some good. It will bring back a sense of clarity to the thoughts that are swimming around and stock piling themselves in the back of your brain. It will give you some time to take inventory of your priorities and reorder them. Try it.