Are You Bringing Something Equal To The Table?

People spend a tremendous amount of time thinking about what their potential suitor should bring to the table. He/She must have a car, a job, a home, good credit, etc...but let's be honest here. When we're seeking partners who bring so much to the table, are we being fair when it comes to what WE have to offer? It's not fair, nor wise, for you to demand that a person be able to do xy and z for you, if when necessary you yourself are ill equipped to return the favor. As women we want men in our lives who can be good role models for our children but I must admit that in the past I've rarely thought about what kind of example or impression I would make on a man's children. We don't spend enough time with ourselves. We spend more time thinking about our wish list of man qualities than we do preparing ourselves to be able to add something significant to a union. We worry less about what someone can offer us spiritually and emotionally than we do about finances and physical attributes. How can you place an expectation on someone else to own their own home, if you don't own one? How can you insist on someone being able to provide for a family, if you can't? We need to think about what else we gain when we seek out partners who are a shelf higher than we are. We gain a dependency that is unhealthy for a relationship because we have to constantly look to that person for what we are lacking. All I'm saying is...make sure you have your own sh*t together before you go demanding that another person has to fill such requirements in order to be a part of your life. Other than that...think about what you can add to another person's life before you inole yourself in it. Have a healthy relationship with YOU first!